STRESS!!! ILL TALK ABOUT STRESS

barbaranoela · Post by **barbaranoela** » Thu Apr 19, 2007 2:36 pm

As U MIGHT all know---Kait was detoxed from opiates---and then put on something other to LESSEN her HEAD PAIN!!!!

Whatever it is(I know but cannot think of it now) is NOT doing the JOB as the opiates did---but of course the opiates keep her in la-la land and not very communitive---

She is now seeing a shrink plus a psychologist to assist her in INDERSTANING her PAIN???? What the hell is to understand WHY one is suffering???? Do they say well *let us have a bout of Kait's pain so that we can understand too?????? They know from nothing---words--words and words--

Well Kait told Lynn she rather be back on an opiate--to feel less pain than what she is going thru now----

Neither of the DOCS. agree even though she is termed SUICIDAL by them????

And she keeps saying * I am going to kill my self--* I will do it!!!I cannot function with this pain---!!!!

This can be a threat---so that they put her back on the opiates BUT this stupid bastard keeps asking KAIT---*well Kait when are U going to do this*
Nauturally their methods!!!

Kait has been thu alot---and maybe when U DONT have a friggen life and everything sucks--she might do it---
I know Kait---I spoke with her---and she is back to lying down with eyes covered and a miserable person----
She would luve so to have a boyfriend---yes, and everything that goes with having the kind of luve that she wants---

She did look so good when we saw her---she talked normally--I just dont understand???

I watch Doug suffer----I listen to Kait wishes to be dead---and I should be happy---????

There are many times,once again, that I wouldnt care if I DIDNT wake up!!!!

Once again the tension is building in my house---and I cant even call it HOME!!!

So Much for for the *golden years* and so much for many of my years --

Barbara

Mars · Post by **Mars** » Thu Apr 19, 2007 3:18 pm

Barb - that's all I can offer - wish they were in person - well.................not now - strep is contagious!

Mars

grannyh · Post by **grannyh** » Thu Apr 19, 2007 4:05 pm

Doctors are so afraid of getting in trouble for prescribing opiates... they are monitored.. so they err in their own best interests!

I am fed of with most of the medical profession... but when we are sick.. where else do we have to go.....sigh...

Dee · Post by **Dee** » Thu Apr 19, 2007 5:15 pm

Barb!!
I truly feel your heartache! It's is awful to not have any control over some situations and you just feel downright helpless.. That's the hardest part for us.. Then we sit and rack our brains and fret and get so damned overwhelmed we don't know what end is up!!!
When I felt the need to talk to someone outside of my family, this guy told me that I had a BIG anticipation problem!!! I replied with hell yes, when I seem to get hit with one thing right after another. I told him I'd like to see how he would react on a day to day basis .... I dropped him because when I spoke to him I was as serious as a heart attack and he wanted to put humor in what I was finding not to be funny at all..
Just know that I think of you often and wish I could make it all better!

Love
Dee~~~~

MaggieRedwings · Post by **MaggieRedwings** » Fri Apr 20, 2007 5:18 am

Dear Barbara,

Boy could I feel your pain and yes - also your anger in that post and you are right to feel both. With all that Kait has been through and still going through, how could they not understand the pain she is in. Kait has not had any kind of decent teenage years and the absence of the things that all of her friends can do I am sure add to dragging her down.

I do hope things improve and it is such a shame that you just got back home and it starts all over again. Between what you, Lou, Doug and Kait are going through I don't have a clue how you handle it. Your humor probably is your saving grace.

Love you and you and yours never leave my prayers.

Maggie

CAMary · Post by **CAMary** » Fri Apr 20, 2007 4:32 pm

Barbara dear,

You know sometimes life just sucks, plain and simple! Unfortunately, we have never been promised otherwise. .. Sometimes I watch that show "Extreme Home Makeover" - and I cry every time!! Some families seem to have an unspeakable amount of adversity and bad luck to overcome. There is no "rhyme nor reason" - there just "is".

I can't explain why some people make zillions on the stock market and seem to lead a worry-free, charmed life, while others of us work our asses off, try and do the right things and still get kicked in the teeth!! All we can do is press on and try to make the best of the hand we have been dealt...

And I know it is hard to watch our kids/grandkids suffer! While cancer really sucks, it pales in comparison to watching my second born child fight for every breath in the NICU after being born premature...

Don't feel like you have to shoulder the burden of worry for *everyone* - just do what you can to be supportive. Wouldn't it be great to be able to wave a magic wand and make everything okay? But we can't. Caregivers need a break too - so please take care of yourself!

My parents have been dealing with the stress of my diagnosis, as well as my brother's problems (which, BTW the psychiatrist has decided are stress-triggered!! He is doing much, much better!). They are going to Carmel for a weekend away and to attend a wedding. They have arranged for my cousin and his wife and my older brother to cover supervising my brother - they need the break!

Sometimes we can't fix things, but we can try our best to make them as okay as possible. It sounds like that is what you and Lou are trying to do - be there when your family needs you. That in itself, means a lot!

Love,

Mary