Whew!!

starfire · Post by **starfire** » Fri Apr 30, 2010 6:50 pm

Don't have the time or the energy to read posts right now but was thinking some may have wondered where I've been. Been without internet service for 5 days........ Torture!!! HaHa

Comcast finally came out late today and I'm reconnected at last.

Love, Shirley

Post by **tex** » Fri Apr 30, 2010 7:53 pm

Shirley,

Thanks for the update. I'm glad it wasn't something more serious.

I'll bet you are plenty busy these days, but I hope things are working fairly smoothly, otherwise.

Love,
Tex

Gloria · Post by **Gloria** » Fri Apr 30, 2010 7:57 pm

It's amazing how dependent we are on our Internet access, isn't it?

I hope you are coping with things, too.

Gloria

Gabes-Apg · Post by **Gabes-Apg** » Fri Apr 30, 2010 8:15 pm

welcome back shirley

how is your mum?

starfire · Post by **starfire** » Sat May 01, 2010 7:22 am

She is healing pretty well. Everyone seems pleased with her progress.

Since I'm always with her, though, I have noticed that her mind seems to be going downhill at a faster rate than before. Perhaps that's to be expected. She does OK if she has been doing something for a long time in a certain way but can't seem to retain how to do anything "new" or "differently". She was doing fine with the walker but now she doesn't even seem to remember how to use it correctly, especially if she is tired. She does the best in the mornings which is when the home therapist comes so he thinks she doing just great.

I hate having to "correct" her all the time and sometimes she resents it but if I can keep her from falling before we go to Pa I'm going to do it. Not that I want her to fall there either but I'll let up on her some. I hate being on her back about something all the time.

Anyway, just plodding along as best as we can. I still haven't read any posts yet.

Love, Shirley

Gloria · Post by **Gloria** » Sat May 01, 2010 3:00 pm

I hope your mom makes it without falling until you return to PA. I know how difficult it is to deal with someone who can't remember things. My mother used to ask me the same questions five minutes after I'd already answered them. I finally got a blackboard and wrote the anticipated questions and answers. When she'd ask me the same questions, "Where do I live?", or "How far away is it?", I'd point to the answer on the blackboard. It saved me from repeating all the time.

When I'd tell her she had memory problems, she'd respond "Well, that happens when you get older." I was always impressed that she was so accepting of it. If only I could be as accepting of MC...

Gloria

ant · Post by **ant** » Sun May 02, 2010 7:54 am

My ma also suffers from short term memory loss. Conversations go round in circles and she does not seem to realize she has a problem. Well, she probably cannot remember that she cannot remember. She seems cheerful 'though, so that is good. I suppose we all have to play the game of life with the cards we are dealt...... anyone want to send us all the ace of trumps!

Best, Ant

Gabes-Apg · Post by **Gabes-Apg** » Mon May 03, 2010 2:47 am

Relatives with dehabilitating mental capacity is harder on the family than the sufferer. they might show irritation at the time but they soon forget (true) they feel unsettlement but it is not long term.
for the family and friends it is a difficult adjustment to see them 'less then what they were'

when my dad was in hospital with brain tumour, there were stages where he didnt know who we were, we would walk into the room and he would shout at us to get out and we no right to enter his room. I was 11, i didnt fully understand how a father could not know his daughter. and then a week later know who we were and not have any memory of what happened the week before.

a bit like MC - life is what it is for 30 - 40 years and then wammo it totally changes. seeing people we love changing 'detoriating' is really hard.

take care shirley
hope your digestion is ok

big hugs