GABES~~~~~

[barbaranoela]

I am way past the *running rapids* stage~~~ Matter of fact--due to back surgery--(bout 2 years ago)--I am now in the misery of CONSTIPATION--and thats a real pain on the --giving birth to a baby is easier than giving birth to a piece of BRICK-- as I phrase it --
I do take stuff to ease the flow---but damn my system is a stubborn one~~~

Tis my miserable self that sorta doesnt want to do anything /anyplace and etc--etc~~~
Been there before---and lord knows how my family goes outter their ways to *cheer* me up--
This time I think they have had it----and I *thank them*---it is all up to me to look around---get that smile back-----and get to living life~~~

thanks---and I add a
Barbara




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[Gabes-Apg]

it is up to you.....
there is not right way or wrong way to grieve....there is your way.
and whether it is D or Constipation if things are not right, then it can take all your energy to be with others.

do you know that in Tonga, when a relative dies, the women sit by the grave site for a week and wallows... no one tries to cheer them up... they let them grieve. the other family members bring her food etc

i think there is a push in society about dont grieve, pick yourself up face adversity, build a bridge and get over it. have a counselling session with a stranger and all will be right
i think this is wrong all this does is bury the emotions. we postpone grieving. and the fact that your body is constipated and blocked is an indicator.

I do agree that a change of scene, with the right people can definately help, as long as it is a place you feel safe to be yourself, happy or sad.

hugs and loads of love

[MaggieRedwings]

Morning Barbara,

I totally agree with Gabes in that our society does not really allow people to grieve and get out the angst. Take your time and do it in your own way. Things will get back to normal and hope you take your friends up on the trip.

Love, Maggie