Paula - I'm going to go ahead and mouth off a little about this, though Tex's knowledge is far richer than mine - so don't take my answer to the bank, but I hope it will give you some helpful context... when I first found this forum, I was pretty overwhelmed!
Here's my take:
First, you're asking excellent questions. The typical allergy tests don't detect the issue we have with gluten, which is different from an "allergy" - it's more like, the body thinks that gluten is a pathogen, like a bacteria or virus, and is attempting to fight it... and our MC symptoms (plus many other possible symptoms) represent something like civilian "collateral damage."
"Intolerance" is not always used as a technical term; and in the vernacular, it sounds like something you could just ignore... people are familiar with 'lactose intolerance' (for example) which is TOTALLY different from a peanut allergy, which can be fatal if even a small amount is ingested. As a result, I think some well-meaning people figure if we don't have that kind of rapid, severe reaction, we're not really "allergically" unable to eat wheat. But we do sustain damage, sometimes quite severe, and sometimes with very small amounts of gluten. HOWEVER - I seemed to be having reactions involving mast cells, when first sick, and some of those symptoms are in the 'allergy' family... apparently I am fortunate not to have mast-cell enterocolitis, or a systemic problem with the mast cells that release histamine in allergic responses, but when everything goes blooey with me, that set of issues can get into the act as well (hives... dead give-away!)
To make things more confusing, in our discussions in this board as we all seek to achieve and maintain remission: many of us temporarily have trouble "tolerating" fiber, which is physical extremely irritating to a suffering gut, and excessive oil in the diet can be hard to digest, and some foods such as citrus or onions or sugars may be "hard to tolerate" while we are healing, but that doesn't necessarily mean that we have an Intolerance with a capital I. (I now eat quite a few things that troubled me when I was first recovering.) But that doesn't mean we're "intolerant" of those foods, in the same sense as "gluten intolerance."
I think I'm guilty myself of using words a little inconsistently
The Enterolab tests measure IgA antibodies to the gliadin component of gluten; also to casein, one of the protein components in dairy... and several other foods. These antibodies are actually in the gut, and will not be found in the bloodstream, unless and until the gut is so badly damaged that it is highly permeable, and large peptide molecules that should be contained within the gut are able to cross that barrier (and that's when the symptoms and other trouble may begin). That's why Enterolab tests sometimes reveal a serious problem with gluten in a person who has been assured there's no celiac issue - because it hasn't shown up in the blood yet.
I hope this helps - many folks here were assured they couldn't possibly have a problem with gluten, or dairy, and yet... they learn otherwise.
The food allergy tests that Tex mentioned... they have been improving them nearly 50 years, and they are still terribly unreliable. SO FRUSTRATING!
Tex, I'm excited that your book is getting closer. Congratulations, and as always, a thousand thanks.
Sara